Erotic combat

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First point: the two "c's" (common sense and consent) that apply to all female combative activities, apply especially to erotic wrestling or "sex-fighting", as it sometimes called. Review all the other sections of this primer before you try this. In fact, it would be helpful to do so before even reading this section.

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I personally was introduced to erotic combat fairly late and didn't take it very seriously for quite some time. But I met a couple of very good wrestlers who would sometimes do it and, after I tried it, I realized that it can be a very unique experience and very exciting.
With the broadening of "acceptable" (at least to ourselves) sexual options for women, it has become more popular during the last ten years. It is often done by lesbian or bi-sexual combative women and a good percentage of couples into wrestling or catfighting will sometimes engage in it.
I think it's pretty wonderful if you can find the right people and do it safely but if you have a problem with it or are not sexually comfortable with other women, don't do it. That said, let's go on.

Forms

There are basically two types of erotic matches and the difference has to do with the goal sought.

In face straddle matches, the combatants fight to dominate each other (as in a regular wrestling match) but they particularly vie for the top (or face straddling) position. This is also sometimes called "domination wrestling" but I think that name is useless.

In the other, the "sex fight", the goal is to bring the opponent to orgasm during the contest itself.
In all cases, there are some simple rules to follow. (Now, be honest with yourself because I have to get graphic in my explanations here so, if this is too heavy for you, go on to the next section of the primer. Remember, we're into mutual consent here and that includes what you read on this site.)

General Rules

Do it only with other couples or women you know very well and always take precautions.
It IS sexually proximate and, while choosing couples tends to filter out some of the danger of sexually transmitted diseases, you should always protect yourself.

Make her tell you, in no uncertain terms, that she's healthy or "clean" sexually and is sure of it. At the very least, this may remind HER of the inherent dangers.

Depending on the sexual contact that is to occur, use shields and surgical gloves. Check out web sites specializing in sexual health topics for details and don't hesitate to demand such precautions.

When setting up the match, ask about your opponent's sexual orientation.
Lesbians and bisexual wrestlers have no problem telling other women about their sexual orientation and, in general, those are the people you are going to be doing this with. At the very least, make sure she's sexually comfortable with other women.
Some women "try it" only for their men's pleasure and that often turns out horribly for everyone. If that's what your opponent says, request another kind of match for your first encounter.

If its gets too embarassing for either of you, stop it.

The face straddle match

is a wrestling match or catfight that continues until one woman is able to securely straddle the other's face. In less prim and proper English, you get your butt or crotch on her face, straddling her torso. This is among the most potentially dangerous forms of female combat because you can cut off her air supply. Even for a split second, this can one of the most frightening experiences a human being can have. So be responsible and follow these rules if you win the straddle position.

Make clear whether a sit will be until a submission or prolonged (until the winner comes or is satisfied).
If it's to be to submission, she submits and you get off her. Period.

If you two want to go further in the sit....

Decide whether it will be a front/back sit or just front.
In most cases, she's going to have to use her tongue on you and so the question is very very pertinent, wouldn't you say?

Give her space!
This is VERY important! If you're straddling her, place yourself about an inch to two inches above her face and let her reach YOU, dipping slightly and in rhythm to meet her. NEVER smother her. That looks great on video tapes but it is so dangerous I can't even fathom it. Smothering means just what it says and you don't want to smother anyone in a fun event. Talk to her and tell her if she's reaching you, etc. You won and you're entitled to the sit but you're also responsible for her well being.

If she says she's having trouble breathing, ROLL OFF immediately.
Don't play games with people's safety. If she says she's having a problem, she's having a problem.

If you lose, do what you've agreed to.
Don't back out after a loss unless it gets too heavy or there is some safety problem. Then just tell her immediately. Don't play with your own safety because she doesn't want that either.

Fight nude.
Well, yeah, I mean what do you think you're doing here? There's nothing modest about a face sit so don't start getting all modest about your clothing. No matter what you see on videos, the safest face sit is done absolutely naked. Garments will scratch her face and make your satisfaction more difficult thereby prolonging the sit unnecessarily (and dangerously). If you fight in bottoms, wear something you can quickly take off before the sit and do just that.

Shower and wash thoroughly before the contest.
It won't prevent sweat and odor but will cut down on those problems.

Get off the moment you've come, are tired, or sense that she's too tired to continue.
Prolonging a face sit can be dangerous and frightening.
By the way, if your face straddle match ends in some other kind of submission, you can (by previous agreement) assume a sit after the loser has submitted. Take your prize, in other words.

is a contest in which the women are wrestling or fighting to bring each other to orgasm with the loser being the woman who comes first.
There are various forms of "sex fighting". The most popular is a real wrestling match or catfight in which the combatants are allowed, among all the other techniques, to rub each other sexually with hands, thighs or feet...whatever is available. Here too, girlfriend, there are rules!

NEVER and I'm talking Barb's big "N", grab or pull her pubic hair.
It sounds great to some men but you KNOW how dangerous it can be and with people moving around vigorously there's no sure way of controlling how hard you do it. So don't do it! Ever.

Never insert fingers into the anus or vagina.
You want someone's fingers in there while YOU are thrashing about? Emergency Room city!

Never slap, punch or kick someone's crotch.
I don't even have to explain that one.

Have an alternative way of winning.
In other words, if one of you submits with any hold, the match is over. It's actually advisable not to fight only until an orgasm for a simple reason: no matter what the fantasy stories say (or what your man firmly believes) it is very very difficult to make another woman come during a wrestling match. And, if that's the only way to win, you may be in for a very long, exhausting, possibly boring and even harmful match.

If you come, admit it immediately.
It's often tough to tell if another woman has come, so don't take it for granted that she knows you did.

If you sense that she has, ask her right then and there.
Some people find it difficult to say "I just came" in the middle of a wrestling match. She'll tell you if you ask.

If you don't trust yourself or the opponent to follow these rules, don't fight.

I've been asked through hundreds of email messages to address other forms of sex-fighting on this site. The problem is that most of these aren't really wrestling. For some people, sex-fighting is really nothing more than a kind of sexual competition to see who can make the other come first.

One such contest involves kneeling facing each other very closely, holding her around the back with your left hand and using your right hand to masturbate her. She does the same. The one who comes first loses.

There are variations. Grinds, like the one on the right, or even the use of feet as the primary tool of masturbating.

Because these contests involve no physical combat, I have no real rules for them. This is not to say they aren't "fights" because they can involve some strategy (avoiding a direct rub to your clitoris while trying to rub hers directly, for example). They can also involve "trash talk" or scenes ("Let's see who the better woman really is, bitch!" LOL)

But since they're not wrestling or fighting, they pose very little danger and I don't think I have to tell you how to do it -- it's pretty natural, seems to me. I want you to do this if you want to but there's not much more I can say about it here.

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